“Beauty advice!??
I’m pretty hot already!”
That’s true.
But when it comes to beauty advice, are you just looking good for yourself and your friends, or are you cultivating “The Look” that attracts men? And if you don’t have a problem attracting men, could it be that your look is saying the wrong things about you?
What does your look say about you? Specifically, what does it say about your sexuality? Does your look make you look interesting and available? Does it make you look like you’ll sleep with anyone? Do you look like you are permanently about to go camping?
Stop for a moment and get back to the original purpose of beautifying yourself: to attract a mate. Recently, conflicting ideas in society has split that purpose into two directions. Either you are going too far with over-makeup and slutty fashion or you don’t do anything at all. The fact remains that a majority of women taught themselves how to define their own style without really knowing how or why.
This leads us to an even bigger issue of the beauty industry just reinforcing stereotypes and keeping women as second-class citizens. Whatever your opinions on this, the fact remains that the overwhelming majority of men prefer feminine women. They enjoy that you have dresses and love that you grow your hair long.
Makeup is the easiest way to look good.
In fact, just the simple act of applying any makeup signals to the man that you are at the very least, feminine. At best, it shows you might be available.
So let’s start with makeup and its intended purpose. Its basic goal is to make you look healthy and mimics some typical biological responses. What happens when we start to “get that lovin’ feeling?” Our cheeks turn red. Makeup’s response: blush. “Eyes are the windows to the soul…” Bingo: eye makeup draws a man’s eyes into yours. Foundation evens out the skin’s appearance making you look healthier.
A man will never particularly notice your makeup unless it’s excessive. His mind simply thinks, “Pretty girl. Must talk to her.” His brain will also register that you have made an effort to beautify yourself and this means that you could be interested in him talking to you. By beautifying yourself, you are making it easier for the man (who has very little intuition on these matters) to make the first move.
So what is the right way to do my makeup?
Ideally, your skin is perfect and your bone structure is striking so you only have to put a little lipstick on as you run out the door. OK, so in the real world, we all need a bit more work than that. You should have two different looks at the very least. An easy, minimalist daytime look that you can do yourself without making you wake up an hour earlier before you go to work. You also need a more involved “night” look that is a bit more glamorous.
If you’ve never done it before, now is the time to schedule a makeup session at your local mall. It’s usually free but they expect you to make a purchase of some of their makeup afterwards. The trick here is to tell your makeup artist that you need a clean, easy, daily look that she can teach you to do. Ask for beauty advice on what compliments the shape of your face and matches your skin tone. Once you have your day look perfected, go back and get your night look too.
Never loose sight of the purpose for doing all of this: will this help attract a man?
How much is too much? Guys love the fact that you take care of yourself, but when it takes two hours just to get you out of the house, you might be going a little too far. If your makeup makes you look like a prostitute, tone it down a little bit. You are looking for dates, not stalkers.
There are tons of products out there that make your skin, hair and overall appearance look better. Whenever you can, ask the pros for some great beauty advice. You can also just walk up to someone with great fashion sense or an awesome hairstyle and ask them the particulars.
What does your clothing say about you?
More importantly, what does your clothing say about your sexuality? Does it say anything at all? Once again, subtlety is a desired goal here. Maybe not… If you are looking to hook up with a guy tonight, a tight and revealing outfit will work just fine. If you are looking to find a guy that you can start a long-term relationship with, give him a chance to take you seriously. Basically, if you always dress like a slut, he will only think of you as a slut. If that is just one of many of your looks, now you are a bit more intriguing.
Avoid classifying yourself with just one type of clothing. Although it’s comforting to identify with only one group, play around with your styles and work other elements in. For example, if you are just the “goth girl” you limit yourself to a large group of great and available men who might be intimidated by you or just plain uninterested. If you can work in other elements and mix styles, you target a much larger audience (dare we say “business goth?”). Once again, your ability to do something different than your friends makes you stand out. Conformity is for the lonely.
Perhaps one of the best pieces of beauty advice is to always look good. You never know when you are going to meet the one so why blow it because you just aren't feeling it that day.
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