Dealing with Jealousy in a Long Distance Relationship

“I’m afraid of dealing with jealousy when one of us moves away.”

It happens to calmest among us. Dealing with jealousy in some form or another pops up in all relationships. When it happens in a long distance relationship, it might just destroy it.

Let’s start with the most obvious thing. Don’t date a guy with jealousy problems. Jealousy is one of those “gateway emotions.” It doesn’t accomplish anything and it shows how insecure someone is. When you get jealous, how does it make you feel? How do you react? When a guy feels this way, he always expresses it as anger, but he can also show it as violence. And once he goes for violence, things will only get worse.

A jealous guy will ruin your life

If you want a guy fighting for your honor all the time, then date a jealous guy. The problem is that it never stops with him smacking the losers who hit on you at the bar. It often spills into your family and professional life. He might want to beat up your boss or your male cousin. You know that guy you’ve been best friends with since preschool? You’ll have to lose him too just to keep the peace.

Even then it doesn’t stop there. Men who have problems like these will run away all your friends and keep tabs on where you are and who you’re talking to. Girls Night Out? He won’t let you do that anymore. Anything that you might be able to get “in trouble?” Nope. Forbidden.

One day, you might get sick of his jealousy and leave him. Studies have shown that most ex-boyfriend stalkers were always dealing with jealousy. After getting dumped, they took on the “if I can’t have her, no one can” mentality.

Jealousy is a terrible emotion that makes people do terrible things.

Your problem with jealousy

What if it’s you with the problem? Girl, you gotta kill it now so it doesn’t ruin your relationship… all of your relationships.

Maybe you can’t help it. OK, let’s work with that. If you really have a serious problem dealing with jealousy, then don’t date “playa” men. If he’s always flirting with other women and it throws you into a rage, stop putting yourself in these positions. The description of the man above, that could be you.

Do you really want to be the person your boyfriends have to fear? Nothing has ever been made better through jealosy. It drives a wedge down the middle of your relationship and prevents you from gaining total trust and love from your man.

Our advice: never allow it. The first time he shows this kind of insecurity, dump him. It will only get worse. If you have issues dealing with jealousy, go get counseling. Find out why you feel this way and figure out how to avoid it before it breaks up the best relationship you’ve ever had.