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"Does he like me?
I really want to know!"
...so there’s this guy…
He’s perfect. It seems like he might, but you are dying to know, “Does he like me?” So many people
get lost on the very first step of dating. You both think the other person is into you, but sometimes it’s hard
to tell. He sends so many confusing and conflicting messages, you don’t know what to do.
You think he’s great. You like the way he makes you feel (sometimes!). He’s even in your dreams, but you’re
afraid of embarrassing yourself by pursuing that guy because he’s so hard to figure out.
Chances are, if you’re this confused, he really is attracted to you. The whole “dating ritual" between men
and women is full of confusing undertones and bizarre rituals that neither one of you are even aware you are doing.
So many loves get lost in the confusion…
If you go through all of these attrction signs and you're still not sure, then it's time to take things
into your own hands. Read the book
The Art of Irresistible by one of our favorite writers for this
site, Roberto Hogue. It's time to really get what you want: this guy! Time waits for no woman and the longer you wait, the better chance that
someone else will swoop in and bag your boy!
Does he treat you differently than other women?
Some guys are just incurable flirts. He’ll chat up any
girl he sees. Most guys only flirt with the one they are interested in. Pay attention to how he acts around
other women. Does he say the same things to them as he does to you? Does he have the same kind of nervous shyness
around them too? If not, you can bet he’s attracted to you.
Men change around someone they like. Think of gorillas thumping their chest to impress a hot lady
gorilla. Does he try to show off around you? Does he do weird things around you that he doesn’t do around other
girls? On the “Does He Like Me Scale” this is as close to a ten as you can get.
Is he super nice or super mean to you?
Compliments are obvious signs of attraction, but being mean?!! How does being mean show that he’s attracted to
you? It seems impossible, but watch any TV show about the mating rituals of mammals and you’ll often see the male
being a jerk to the female. It’s a very primal instinct that men have.
Does he insult you, but then always try to be around you? Is it obvious that he’s interested in you, but
then he says something mean to you? You can guarantee that most guys don’t even realize they do this. But think
about what this accomplishes in your mind: you can’t stop thinking about him! You spend your days adding
up all the nice things he does and then you’re stuck analyzing the mean things.
Mission accomplished! He has you confused and crazy. Does He Like Me Scale: 7.5
Is he always around?
You avoid people that you don’t like. You hang out with your friends. You go out of your way to spend time with
people you’re attracted to. Same goes with the fellas. If he always seems to be around wherever you are, you can
bet he likes you. If it seems like a big inconvenience for him to always “swing by,” it’s a great sign he’s
attracted to you.
Check his body language
We gravitate towards people we are interested in. Does he get a little too far into your personal space? Is he
always leaning towards you? Does he touch you? Not that kind of touch! Does he bump into you or touch your
back or arm when he sees you? This includes the mean touch like playfully trying to trip you or pushing you away.
Think about this: when someone pushes you, it’s usually in anger. If he’s not angry then he’s obviously
doing it for some other reason...
If you are tripped up wondering if a guy likes you, do yourself a favor and really learn body
language. We all act a certain way when we are dealing with our feelings. We simply can't hide it! Check out
Body Language Flirting to know exactly what he's thinking at any given moment. This book comes free with
The Art of Irresistible and gives vuluable insight on how to say everything without even saying a word. It also helps
decode what he's really trying to say!
Men are not the masters of body language that women are. They aren’t very subtle. Any time he touches you
or takes a “forward posture” is a great sign of attraction.
Learning how to read this very powerful language will truly make you unstoppable! Not only that, you won't
embarrass yourself by going for guys who aren't interested.
This can go in one of two possible directions. If he’s shy he might avoid eye contact at all costs if he really
likes you. If he’s not shy, he will do his best to catch your eye. Try to get the shy guy to look you in the eyes.
He’ll give away his feelings for you faster than anything. If he’s not the shy type, stare him down. Sometimes
it’s those small awkward moments that send you both into each other’s arms.
Read this great article on
eye contact flirting to learn some great skills on using your eyes to say everything.
In the mean time, when you get caught in one of these stare-downs, try leaning towards him. If he leans
in with you, you’re in. Go for the kiss if you’re really feeling it! Which brings us to...
When we develop a closeness to someone, we unconsciously start to “mirror” their actions. As you talk to him,
touch your ear (or hair or some part of your body) and if he repeats this action within a few minutes, he’s
showing his interest in you. It could be as simple as him always taking a drink soon after you do.
So he’s doing most if not all of the signs of attraction and the readings on the Does He Like Me Scale are
through the roof. How do you get him to make the first move? The answer is that he NEVER makes the first move.
Sure, he might one day come up to you and ask you out, but you made all the little first moves up until that
Show interest in him. Ask him questions about his interests. Touch him back. Compliment him for something
and yes, be mean back to him! Of course if you really want to be a ninja about all of this, you live without the book,
Rousing the Lion. Find out ways that you can be mysterious to him right away! If you're really serious
about bagging this guy, then you really need to bring out the big guns and stop waiting for something to
If all else fails to bring that boy to action, you have to come right out and call him on it:
“I think it’s weird that you haven’t asked me out on a date.”
Whoa girl! No one has ever said that to him before! Even if he was on the fence about you, now he’s
impressed. Not only that, you’re not really putting yourself that far out there for embarrassment. Even if he
counters with, “Because I don’t wanna,” you can answer with “Hmmm, interesting.” And he’s still in the hot seat!
If you make enough “observations” even the shyest guys will break down and ask you out. You no longer
have to worry, “Does he like me?” and get on with what you’ve wanted all along: an awesome relationship.
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