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“The dreaded first date conversation. What do I say?”The first date conversation is all about introducing yourself. It’s kind of like a job interview to see if you two are intellectually, emotionally, and sensually compatible. Many times, it’s hard to get to that second date if the conversation goes bad.
As far as what you can talk about, there are very few things that are off limits for a first date conversation. However, there are a few big no-no’s. Let’s review before we go on to the yes’s: Pay attention to what you say. Of all things, this one should be obvious, but it happens all the time so it bears repeating. All those things your mom told you not to bring up in polite conversation is not first date conversation either. Religion, politics, war, human rights, basically anything that either one of you might have a strong opinion about is off limits! Unless you both met at church or a political rally, stay away from these topics. They are boring and “common.” I’m not saying these subject are boring, it just that these are typical topics they talk to their friends about. You aren’t sparking any fires talking about who’s president. There will be many more times to deal with saving the whales. Right now, you are both trying to figure out if each one of you are loveable. Avoid any topics that might turn the first date conversation into an arguement. 
Stay away from the future. Right now is not the time to grill him down about the names of his future children or what side of the bed he sleeps on. The longer you avoid any talk about commitment, the less typical you will seem and the more lovable you become. Men, by nature, all have some degree of commitment-phobia. Here are some ways to smartly work around this.
Be mysterious. Don’t give away the farm on the first meeting. Whatever your life story is, can it. Not only is it boring, boring, boring, whenever someone gets all the information they need, it kills the conversation. Besides, any time you run down a list of all your accomplishments, it comes off as bragging and makes you look socially stupid. Instead of talking about how much you travel, say it in a way that creates more questions. For example, “I got this necklace from an Argentinean vendor on the beach,” poses many more questions than, “I go to Argentina every year for Groundhog Day.” Shut up! You can’t let him know that you’re a good listener if you blab on and on. Ask him questions about everything and then… listen. Nothing is worse than talking to someone when you can feel that they are thinking about what they are going to say next. Let there be silence. Your ability to allow silence makes you way more alluring than if you never let it happen. You have no ex-boyfriends. At least not for the sake of today. Sure you’ve had troubling relationships in the past. We all have. Bringing it up in the very beginning only shows you’re not over it yet. When you go to look at a new apartment, you don’t show up with your furniture. Wait til you’ve made it past the credit check before you start packing in your baggage. You might have children, but only mention them. Kids are really important, but he’s not interested in dating your kids. You should let him know that you do have children, but don’t talk about them all night. There will be tons of time for him to get to know them. Remember, the first date is only an introduction. You only need to give little snippets about your life.
What you should talk about
Exciting things! Talk about things you are passionate about (as long as they don’t fall in the no-no section). Talk about adventures you’ve had. Traveling, shows you’ve been to, times in your life where you’ve learned something huge; these are all great topics.
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