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"How do I tell a man
he needs Viagra?"

Question submitted by Kitty, 30, Columbus, GA

"I’ve been dating my man for about a year now, and I think he might need to get on Viagra. How does one go about telling a man he needs Viagra without hurting his feelings?"

There are a few factors at work here. Viagra is a prescription medication (although everyone in the world gets the spam telling you that you buying Viagra online is the way to go). So just suggesting, "Honey, I think you need to be on Viagra" is a few more steps more than just picking it up at the grocery store.

He will have to go to a doctor and get a check up and maybe have his heart checked out depending on his age. The doctor will probably do this for a gentleman of any age because you probably don't want to have a heart attack from all the new "activity."

There are other options besides buying Viagra

You said that "maybe" he needs Viagra. I'm going to assume that means he is sometimes capable of achieving erections at least some of the time. If so, that's a good sign that he's at least kind of healthy downstairs. A man's life from childhood, up through his 20's was a veritable puppet show of random (and sometimes embarrassing) erections. As a guy gets into his later 30's, erections start to fade away. There are many reasons for this, the main one being plain and simple aging. Other's include poor circulation caused by cholesterol, alcohol, not being active, all the way up to nerve damage or worse. Also, many anti-depressants wreak havoc on a man's (and woman's) sex drive.

Erections don't get as hard as they used to and might waver from mostly hard to semi-hard during sex. He might go limp altogether. Viagra, Levitra, Cialis and all the other big pharma pills work wonders for making things work. Men and women throughout the world have been rejoicing since their invention. The problem with Viagra and it's Viagra equivalent is that it's only a quick fix to a possibly much bigger issue. Sure, it's helps make things fun for a half hour (or more), but it then becomes a crutch. If your man can achieve erections already but they're not as reliable, he might be better off starting with supplements and definitely exercise.

What supplements are there? Arginine (also known as L-Arginine) is an amino acid that assists with blood flow and has shown many promising effects on impotent men. Ginko Biloba also assists with blood flow and has been shown to counteract some of the sexual side affects of anti-depressants. Herbs like ginseng, yohimbe, and the comically named, “horny goat weed” are all commonly available and might help achieve better erections too.

Some stores sell these as an all-in-one supplement with combinations of all of these items, but only Arginine and Ginko Biloba have had real scientific studies done on them, so make sure one or both of those are in any blends. Or you can get one of the blends and the straight Aginine pills too and make a kind of “homemade Viagra.” You can go pick these up at any supplement store or get them directly from Botanic Choice! Make sure you order something for yourself and tell him, these looked interesting and they were on sale...

That boy needs to work out

Now we come to exercise. Obviously, any exercise will increase blood flow and circulation (the main factors in achieving erections). The more your man hits the gym or uses the stairs or even plays on his Wii, the more likely he will be to perform sexually. If he's not very active, encouraging him to get active might be trickier than trying to tell a man he needs Viagra.

Which gets us back to your question: "how do you suggest your man should take Viagra?" Some guys are pretty mature and believe me, he's more affected by the fact that his erections aren't like they used to be. So with a guy like this, just tell him he needs Viagra. You can even be cute about it, "I want to make love to you all night. Let's get some Viagra!" If he's a bit more sensitive about his performance, then you might consider using the health aspect, "My friend's husband was having erectile dysfunction and he went to the doctor and found out he had dangerously high blood pressure." Suggest he go get checked out and ask the doctor what his options are. Either way, this is going to require a doctor at some point to let him know he needs Viagra and he’s healthy enough to take it.

One of the biggest mistakes men make is ignoring the problem and hoping it will go away. This could be a medical issue. Don’t let the embarrassing nature of the situation prevent you from being concerned about your man’s health.

Lead by example!

There is something you can do to help him with his erectile health. Start doing Kegel exercises! For those unfamiliar with these, it's basically squeezing the muscles of your pelvic floor. How do you do this? Next time you urinate, squeeze the muscles that stop the flow of urine. Bingo! That is all that Kegel exercises are only you do them repeatedly throughout your day. Start with just pumping those muscles repeatedly until you get tired and eventually work into squeezing and holding it for 3 seconds and releasing for 3 seconds. You can work your way up to 10-second intervals or more.

a workout for your vagina! What these exercises do is put some serious muscles on the inside of your vagina. You will orgasm harder and when you squeeze with him inside you, trust us girls, he will be in heaven!

If you really want to blow his mind, get the Natural Contours Ènergie from adamevetoys.com to tighten and firm up your vagina.

Wait, why are we doing all of this? Aren’t we here to make him firmer?

Yes we are! At some point, you will tell him that you found out about Kegel Exercises and tell him he should do them too. When men do Kegels, it makes their erections harder and fatter AND it makes them shoot farther than they could have ever imagined. Sounds funny, but every guy wants to feel like they have a cannon going off when they orgasm.

It might not be a medical condition

There is one last thing we didn’t talk about. Sometimes a man has erection problems because of mental issues. Basically, as a man gets older, erections happen less and less for no reason and only happen when they really need to. When it doesn’t happen right away, he starts to freak out a little bit which only makes matters worse. The next time, he gets nervous because it didn’t work the last time, so now he’s even more nervous.

Then you start to freak out thinking that he doesn’t find you attractive. If you actually say something that he needs Viagra in this moment, then he really starts to freak out. This becomes a never ending circle of shame for him and at this point, telling a man he needs Viagra might be a little insulting and painful to hear.

No matter what you decide to do, never have this conversation with a man when he’s naked, soft, and completely vulnerable. Have it in a different setting (not in the bedroom). And if you mention a “friend’s husband’s peculiar problem” NEVER say that you were telling your friends that he can’t get an erection. Sometimes it’s best to tell the truth, “I felt really sad when you were having problems. I looked online and got really worried you might have a serious health problem.” Telling a man he needs Viagra isn’t easy, but showing concern for his health is usually the way to go.







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