He's Emotionally Distant

by Amy
(Edmonton, AB)

I became friends with my best friends boyfriend about 3 years ago. We have a lot in common and like hanging out with each other. We kept getting closer, and stayed close even after he broke up with my best friend a couple months after my first in person meeting with him (I lived in Edmonton, they lived in Ontario).

A few days later, I realized I was in love with him. I told him how I felt, and was shocked to find out he felt the same way. We kept it a secret for almost a year, though when we were alone a few times we would be quite romantic and close.

Lately though, he's been emotionally distant from me, as he doesn't feel emotions very strongly and doesn't want me to get my hopes up for something that might not happen. I've never really dated before, and told him I would wait and act as a friend until he was ready for a relationship with me.

He's everything I'm looking for and everything I could ever want. Things got a bit worse when my relationship with my best friend (his ex-girlfriend) fell apart a few months ago. We still talk, but he's working overtime all the time, and recently he told me he's been getting close to a girl at his work and doesn't know where it will go.

I don't know what to do- I'm deeply in love with him, but because he doesn't feel emotions as strongly as I do, I don't know if he still feels the same way about me. Am I over-reacting? Should I still wait and see what happens? Or should I start looking for someone else? I don't want to because I love him so much and think we could really have something special, but I don't want to act selfish and cause him to get hurt. What do I do?