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His Ex Came Back

by Lglo
(Missouri)




I have been dating a guy for a month and we really connected. He has been very dependable and has expressed how much of a connection he feels we have. This past week a recent ex-girlfriend of 20 mths contacted him wanting to reconcile. He told me he is very confused right now and needs to take time to figure out what he wants. How should I react to this? Should I just count him as a loss and move on?




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Sep 09, 2011
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starstarstarstarstar 		Happy ending?
by: Anonymous

How did this finally turn out? Did he come back?
Jan 22, 2011
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starstarstarstarstar 		Led me on for nothing
by: Anonymous

I met and dated this guy for about a month and a half. But then about 2 weeks before he left me, his ex showed up out of nowhere asking him to get back together.

We don't live in the same town which was a huge disadvantage for me. He started saying he was very confused because he had some history with her (only 3 months) and still cared, but that he liked me a lot too. So, he led me on for 2 or 3 weeks to finally choose her. Also, he made his decision without seeing me for a couple of weeks, which I think was unfair.

He didn?t give himself or myself a chance to see if our feelings were real. I strongly believe he has some feelings for me even if they?re small (obviously, they weren?t strong enough to make him choose me), but refuses to admit it.

He says ?he knows what he wants her?. But the last time we spoke face to face he cut it short because, in his own words, ?if he didn?t go, he wouldn?t be able to stop himself, and it?s not just physical?.

Later on that night I texted him and told him that after that incident, it was evident that he felt something, however big or small that feeling was. I told him that he should think about that and consider giving me the chance he denied me. He just replied saying ?I think we need to stay friends.?
Jan 22, 2011
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starstarstarstarstar 		Same here
by: Anonymous

Thats exactly what I'm going through right now. He chose his ex and dumped me. The sad thing is it was too late for me emotionally, so now he left me heartbroken.

Another frustrating thing is that the night of our "last goodbyes" I saw something in his eyes an actions that led me to think that he might actually feel something for me, but he refuses to admit it by saying that he knows what he wants (her) and that he thinks we just need to be friends.
Oct 13, 2010
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starstarstarstarstar 		The same exact thing happened to me!
by: Mary

I started dating a guy a month ago as well, and his wife has their 10 year old call him to get together again. She left him and divorced him 2 years ago. I was very nice about it and said, "I guess we are on hold." He said, "Yes, I want to have a clear head and see what it is she wants. I miss my kids and family." After 18 years together, he is right! I consider him extremely intelligent for wanting a clear head when seeing her. I told him to call me if it doesn't work out. He said he'd call me either way. I started praying for him and that he would have his family back, if that's what he really wants. Then I sometimes hope that they don't get together. I also hope that he sees he deserves better. I have to wait no longer than 7 weeks to find out what happens. Gee, maybe I'll meet someone who wants me more in the meantime!!
Sep 05, 2010
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starstarstarstarstar 		The Dreaded EX Returns...
by: Rena

I see this time and time again. A guy gets dumped by that one girl who managed to crawl under his skin.

Chances are he's never really gotten over this breakup. This woman still holds a power over him that you can't imagine. You might be better than her in every way and he might truly know this, but she is the one that got away.

She is the thing he can't have.

Chances are, she's just going to roll in and trash his life all over again, but the real issue here is that there is not much you can do.

Don't play with boys that have been broken and you'll save yourself a ton of heartbreak. The best advice is to cut him out of your life. Cut it clean and cut it now! No begging or "friends," just say later.

This puts you in a position of incredible power over him. The ex is the one that got away, but you will become the one whom he LOST FOREVER. He will always regret what he did to you as long as you simply leave before things have a chance to get ugly.

He will be back. I promise!
Sep 04, 2010
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starstarstarstarstar 		Oh Boy!
by: Anonymous

He is too confused? Give him time to unscramble his brain on his own time. Tell him to keep you posted if you really care.

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