Is He Cheating?

by Courtney
(Colorado)

I've been seeing a guy for about a year, we've been off and on, mainly due to his emotional/personal issues with opening up to people. He has admitted to me he loves me more than anything and everytime we fight, he comes back.

Right now he is living with me because he's looking for a place. when he first came, he was really trying to find one, now he's still looking but not as hard. It makes me happy becuase it makes me feel he wants to stay with me. But I also wonder if it's just becuase he's using me til he gets a place and knows I won't push.

The second question or concern I have is I looked at the pictures on his phone the other day and found one of some girl in her underwear. It didn't show the face, it was just her bellybutton and panites. It really bothered me but I don't want to confront him yet because I don't want him to think I go through his phone or don't trust him.

I honestly don't believe he would cheat on me but I wonder who and why he has that on his phone. It's really bothering me but I'm not sure if I should jump to he's cheating or talking to someone behind my back. His actions and words match up to what he says he feels for me and what he tells me, but finding this made me start thinking otherwise. I have trust issues as it is, so I don't know if it's just me. What advice could you give?

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Jun 29, 2010
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Is He Honest?
by: Anonymous

I also thought my boyfriend was not the cheating kind -- boy was I wrong. All men are subject to temptation, let us not fool ourselves, there are plenty of desperate and easy females on this planet. It is best to know what his inclinations are in given situations and it helps to discuss issues and concerns with your guy before it's too late.

Does he live by principles or does he often demonstrate a lack of self-control? These are clear indicators as to what he might do when nobody's looking. How well do you really know him?

Jun 29, 2010
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Hypothetical Question
by: Anonymous

The hypothetical question idea is perfect because it isn't intrusive. I second that!!

Jun 28, 2010
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How Do You Define Cheating?
by: Anonymous

Some men think viewing porn, hanging out at strip clubs, and one-night-stands are not cheating -- it's your call as to what YOU will tolerate.

How about asking him a hypothetical question such as: If he had a friend who had a picture such as the one you saw on his iphone, what he would think it meant. Listen to your intuition -- ask him what he believes is cheating and discuss your threshold of tolerance.

I found out my man had been cheating for 3 years through reading his texts, only because my gut was telling me that he was keeping something from me.

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