Lack of Communication

by Barb
(PA)

So what's up?: I'm 33 yrs old yet somewhat new to online dating. On Thursday, I met a man (39 years old) online. Soon after, we met and talked in person. He asked for a second date for Saturday and tried to schedule it via text then said via text he was running late, busy and he tried to reschedule it for later or next day.

I had afternoon plans and when that was done, he texted and checked in on me. His plans were postponed. He did not make it clear if this meant he'd be free. I never heard back so I texted that he rejected me then he called to say I should have asked what's going on.

He was logged in online on the dating site. I haven't heard from him until today and not sure why he emailed the following to me, "Barb, I got your texts and your messages - sorry if I did not communicate clearly.

I had a nice time meeting you and although I wasn't sure whether a relationship with us would work out I did think that you were a very sweet and nice person. I was looking forward to seeing you again and exploring the possibility of getting to know you more. At the very least I thought that seeing you again would be fun.

After how things developed on Saturday and how you reacted to what should have been a very simple exchange on only the second time we where going to be seeing each other I had some serious second thoughts about moving any further with you.

I would like to find someone that I get along with and have fun with and after that exchange it pretty much seemed clear that we were not meant for each other.

You seem like a sweet and thoughtful person I hope that your meetings with other people are more fun and less intense, at least until you get to know someone better. Anyway, I'm sure that you'll find many people interested in you and I hope you find someone special. Thanks"