Looking Through His Stuff

by Rachel
(Kennesaw, GA)

I am 64 y/o and I have been living with my boyfriend for 2 years.

Soon after I came to live with him, I was going to clean out his sock drawer and found naked photos of old girlfriends in this drawer. (He cleaned out this drawer the other day and was sure I didn't find these photos.)

It hurts me, but I am known to over-react sometimes and I doubt. I just want to know if it is appropriate for him to have these photos? He doesn't know that I have found them, but it makes me sick. He has had a very, very active past. I have not been a wall flower, but it has been many, many years for me.

I was married for 20 years. Some part of me says they are none of my business, but it still doesn't feel good.

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Jan 21, 2011
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its sad but true
by: Rachael analysis

Men often look at things to conquer them. Believe it or not, women are like quests accomplished.

There is a book by Dr. Laura called 10 stupid things that men do to mess up their lives. 6 out of 10 of those "things" have to do with sex. I'm not saying that I agree with everything Dr.Laura says, because she also believes that men's way of showing love for their woman is sex, which we all know men are 10x's as capable of having non attachment no-emotion sex.

Getting to the photos you found in his sock drawer, don't feel guilty for browsing. People in general are great at hiding things that they think might be objectionable. Like young kids smoking weed or drinking, and their parent are baptists, is going to lie till their black and blue to cover it up.

The biggest thing would be, if he still talks with these ex's. Or you could turn the tables. You're a strong capable woman. Buy a Playgirl and leave it in the bathroom. Or for a more matured response, ask him about it.

If he came across pictures in your sock drawer of men's huge penises, don't you think he would ask you some questions? if u did ask him, and he denies it, find the photos and bring them out into view, or if he moved them, that should be a cause for concern. That means he's hiding something. And if they were of his past why would he have anything to hide?

Jan 19, 2011
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in the past
by: DeeKayOwe

I know it hurts, but he might be wanting to hold on to times when he was more studly. Don't worry about it. As long as you have a good relationship, that was in the past.

Jan 09, 2011
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Relax a little more
by: Roberto

If you want a relationship to work... to really work, you have to do a whole lot of letting go.

Sure, it's probably not the best thing to have pictures of exes laying around, but we kind of all do and you can't blame someone for their past.

Now if they were recent pictures, that's a whole other story...

Jan 08, 2011
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Communication is always key
by: Anonymous

If you're in a relationship - it is ALL your business. Tell him how you feel about it and take it from there.

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