Looking Through His Stuff
by Rachel
(Kennesaw, GA)
I am 64 y/o and I have been living with my boyfriend for 2 years.
Soon after I came to live with him, I was going to clean out his sock drawer and found naked photos of old girlfriends in this drawer. (He cleaned out this drawer the other day and was sure I didn’t find these photos.)
It hurts me, but I am known to over-react sometimes and I doubt. I just want to know if it is appropriate for him to have these photos? He doesn’t know that I have found them, but it makes me sick. He has had a very, very active past. I have not been a wall flower, but it has been many, many years for me.
I was married for 20 years. Some part of me says they are none of my business, but it still doesn’t feel good. And I don’t really want to get in the habit of looking through his stuff.
Our Relationship Advice to You
Relax a little more
If you want a relationship to work… to really work, you have to do a whole lot of letting go.
Sure, it’s probably not the best thing to have pictures of exes laying around, but we kind of all do and you can’t blame someone for their past.
Now if they were recent pictures, that’s a whole other story…