Loving a Man With Trust Issues
by Rose McFarland
(San Jose, CA)
My ex (from just a few hours ago) and I have been together for about a year. But the first 4 to 5 months we were just friends because that's how he wanted it. We both had been hurt several times and his last girlfriend lied a lot.
Even when we were friends, he used to accuse me of not being honest without any just cause. It was sooo hard. Then we fell in love and even talked of marriage.
He searched me on the internet to try to find things about me and didn't find anything.
I have even given him my pass codes to my email, cell phone and, the last thing, my new apartment key just so he would trust me. Because his computer was acting up this morning, he thinks I'm someone who knows computers (and I don't) and is messing up his computer files and things. So he tells me he is tired off all the bullshit and tells me I'm a liar and to leave.
I told him not to do this again. He starts doubting me every 2 to 3 months. This time I'm so hurt. He was supposed to help me move I have 6 days left and now I can't even focus. We were fine the days prior. We did things with his 8 year old daughter and my 11 year old son like always. I'm so hurt for our kids because we are like a family already and now he does this to all of us.
I'm 46 and thought wow this is my true love. What's happening? I'm so so so sad. My son is with his dad this week so he is unaware of our situation. What do I do?