"Did you pick the perfect man
to get into a relationship with?"

This is the most crucial step to any new relationship. If you pick the perfect man to love, relationships are a breeze. By perfect man, we mean perfect for you. A guy who's got your back, who knows you well, who says all the right things. He's an overall great guy.

So why doesn’t anyone ever think about it? It’s just not romantic, huh? There is no contemplation or decision making in “happily ever after.”

So then why do so few people ever get to happily ever after? The answer is clear and brutally honest: you picked the wrong guy to fall in love with! That is so hard to hear for so many people, but if you believe there is someone out there just for you, picking the first guy to come along has nothing to do with fate, destiny, or true love. You have to go out and find the right man and not settle for “just OK.”

Any time you meet a new man, ask yourself the following questions to see if he really could be the one.

Can I spend the rest of my life with this guy? What is his current lifestyle like? Could he be part of your circle of friends? Can you take him along for family activities? Does he compliment your lifestyle and career choice or would he be embarrassing to bring along? Will your friends and family see him as the perfect man?

Does he make my life easier? Think hard about this one. The whole purpose of being in a relationship is having someone to share the human experience with. Two people getting together to conquer the world as a team. Is he really part of your team or are you more like his assistant, his bank, or his mother?

Does he have a future? Whether in relationships or in business, poor partners make poor partners. I’m not saying you can only set your sights on rich dudes, but you should be looking for someone who at least has potential. If he’ll probably still be living with his parents in five years or has no desire to work hard for anything. He will probably treat your relationship with the same enthusiasm.

Are there any “issues” keeping him from giving 100% to me? Was he hurt by an ex-girlfriend or ex-wife and now he hates women? Does he have “baby mama drama?” Did he have a terrible childhood and now he can’t open up emotionally to anyone? Bless you for giving him a chance, but you have a truckload of work ahead of you in this relationship. Great relationships are effortless. The more the right man is ready and willing to give his love to you, the happier your life will be.

Does he interest me intellectually? Are you guys both on the same page? It sucks dating someone you look down on. Pick someone you can talk to endlessly about things you’re interested in too.

Does he understand my emotional needs? If you have no problems showing your emotions and pick a guy with the emotional maturity of a bag of sand, you’re in for some problems. Some guys have no attachment to their emotions and showing any emotions might make them “fruity.” If you’re into ultra-manly men, this might not be an issue, but if you need to know he’s thinking about you, it might be a better idea to choose a man who can say it.

Am I attracted to him sexually? Why is this one so overlooked?

Eventually, all those happy, lovey feelings fade and if you are stuck in a relationship that doesn’t have a strong foundation, you are in for the pain of a break up or a lifetime of silent misery.

The trick is to only allow the great guys a chance at your heart and pick the perfect man from the very beginning.

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