Pregnant and Heartbroken

by Anonymous

Hi Im 22 yrs. old and 2 months pregnant. I was with my ex (the father) for 11 months. For the first 8 months we had some financial problems, but other than that our relationship was a reasonably happy one. Then serious problems developed in our relationship to the point where we fought so bad it became physical a few times (i blew up and hit him and he pushed me down). It was emotionally traumatic for me. I cut myself, cried and felt suicidal at one point.

I tried to work out our problems with him many times, but I felt I could not communicate with him no matter what I said or how reasonable I was about it. Sometimes he was VERY kind and loving (obviously, or I wouldn’t be pregnant.) Other times he ignored and neglected me.

I couldn't take the constant emotional upheaval and the frustration of not being able to fix things between us, especially being pregnant. So I left him, for our baby’s health, knowing I would probably lose him.

I am keeping my baby regardless of all this, I love this baby with all my heart even though she/he’s still tiny. I would really really like to have a civil co-parenthood with my ex so our baby can have the two parents that she/he deserves. My ex told me when we found out I'm pregnant that he would be there for us, but doesn’t contact me to see how I'm doing. I don’t know what to do or what approach I should take to try and establish some kind of peace between us.

If there is anyone who may have insight or advice? Please offer your thoughts. Thanks